There’s something about a new moon that feels like a sacred exhale.

The world gets quiet. The sky turns inward. And somewhere inside, we’re invited to do the same.

I used to think healing had to look big and dramatic—years of therapy, some huge transformation, or a perfectly curated morning routine (lol). But what I’ve come to realize is this: healing often happens in the smallest, most intimate moments. It happens in the pause. In the intention. In the choosing to try again, even when you’re exhausted.

And for many of us—especially single moms, cycle-breakers, and women who’ve always had to figure it out on their own—the new moon is our reset button.

It’s a reminder that just because you come from pain doesn’t mean you have to stay there. That you can honor where you came from without repeating it. That you get to create something softer, safer, more whole—for yourself and the next generation.

These three rituals have helped me come home to myself. They’re simple, sacred, and can be done with nothing more than your intention and a little space to breathe.


Ritual 1: Speak to Your Younger Self (With Compassion, Not Judgment)
This one always makes me emotional, but in the best way.

Light a candle. Close your eyes. And imagine sitting across from the version of you who first felt the wound you’re trying to heal. Maybe it’s little-you, scared and unsure. Maybe it’s teenage-you, hiding the pain because no one ever asked how she was really doing. Maybe it’s even the version of you from last week.

Ask her:

What are you carrying that doesn’t belong to you?

What do you wish someone had said to you?

What would make you feel safe, seen, and loved?

Then tell her. Speak out loud. Write it down in your journal. Whisper it into your pillow if that’s all you have the energy for.

This is how we start to rewire the story. This is reparenting. This is repair.

I do this ritual whenever I feel triggered, abandoned, or like I’m slipping back into survival mode. It brings me back to truth. It reminds me that I’m not broken—I’m healing.

Ritual 2: Write the Pattern, Then Burn It
We can’t change what we refuse to name.

So take a blank piece of paper and write down the pattern you’re done carrying. Don’t overthink it. Just get it out of your body.

It might be:

“I always put everyone else first.”

“I shut down when I need love the most.”

“I keep choosing people who aren’t emotionally safe.”

This isn’t about shame. It’s about clarity. These patterns likely protected you at one point. But now they’re in the way.

Once you’ve written it down, take a deep breath and burn the paper (safely, please). Watch it turn to ash. And as it burns, say:

“This ends with me. I release it with love.”

This is your permission to start again.

Ritual 3: Plant a New Intention (Literally)
I love this one because it gives me something tangible to look at when I’m feeling stuck.

Grab a seed, a pebble, or even a small object from nature that feels meaningful. Hold it in your hand and speak a new truth into it—something you’re ready to grow into.

Maybe:

I trust myself to make aligned decisions.

I am allowed to rest without guilt.

I am safe to receive love.

Then plant it—either outside or in a small pot inside your home. Water it. Check on it. Let it become your reminder that change takes root slowly, but it does grow.

Because healing isn’t just a moment—it’s a movement.

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With Gratitude,

Laci Bennett, Founder